She doesnt want me going to the garden. Before I understood there were many times I just didnt want to hang out with my son. Its just not okay at all. I can promise you that feeling that off you or anyone else-he is soaking it up and not being able to regulate his emotions it comes out in pretty horrible ways. Dont be judgmental to other autism moms, that is just wrong. This article is a bit ridiculous. Parents have those worries about any child, but when you have a child with Autism those are much more intense, i cry myself to sleep some nights thinking about it. Yep, everything. And how judgemental of YOU to not listen to the lady, if you had you would have heard how much she LOVED her child and was saddened that he would never have the things average kids will. Ill ask that you kindly read this post about the harm in functioning labels. Intellectual disability and autism are intrinsically connected, both conditions come from the same pool of autistic genes only that HF autism have dormant intellectual disability genes while severe autism are active. far more than a typical child. On behalf of all the autism parents who could get through about two paragraphs of your article, STOP JUDGING. Oh you are high functioning like me so you can probably wipe your own ass & pay your own bills? Having two autistic children (one moderate and one severe) has ruined my life and my wifes life. The people who mistreat him will take ammunition from articles and videos talking about the hell of Autism, and thats all it will take. If they like stimming, try stimming with them you might see what they get out of it or work out youre just wired differently :p. Then dont be a part of those FB parents groups. We still have bad days but Im telling you- its night and day. To call the disorder that has left our children with profound impairments in cognition, communication and behavior a "strange gift," as Silberman does, is truly mind-boggling. For example, if your wife likes spicy spaghetti and your daughter cries when given spice, place the spice shakers on the table instead of mixing spice into the sauce. WWJD? This isnt right, but parents like us are so freaking exhausted just trying to survive, we dont have the strength to demand fair services for our children. Yes, she said some uncomfortable things but also more importantly said that all she wants is for her child to be HAPPY! WHO will love and care for him after his father and I are gone? Even if I tired too there is not enough time to plan lesson for every child like that, and some days after having a child have a melt down and everything else you had to do after teaching all day without a break you dont have the mental enegery left to spend hour to spend thinking of how Jonny would do better if I could link this concept to his interests in sea life. Take yourself out for a Starbucks coffee to clear your head. NO it would NOT be. But nobody on here has any right to judge anyone about how they deal with autism. Remember that many autistic people don't like the idea of hurting themselves. That is the most passive aggressive thing I have ever read in my life. There is this thing called Personal Boundaries, and the mother in the video and all these commenters defending her, dont understand what that is. The problem is more system wide (she did say school, not teacher, but its likely the problem is broader than that to encompass the whole of state services). The kind of mom who would make one of these namby-pamby videos and have the idiocy to post it has issues beyond her child with autism. There is something that I can not understand why my autistic child ruin things (e.g., cutting mouse wire, toilet lights pulled switch, throwing android tablet from third floor flat, peeled laptops keypads, smashing laptops screen, rip trousers intentionally, etc) and waste things (e.g., squeezing new tube of toothpaste, shampoo, bath-gel out until empty, etc). That is your autism talking. I find it interesting that the first thing this article does is shame a mom for her blog. So did my husband. So your child isnt going to be a football star or a cheerleader. If youre not in that persons shoes, dont assume you understand their life and what they are going through. I am the mother of a severely autistic child and this life sucks I belong to a support group where we share it all. Its okay to be rock bottom, and if you dont have or dont know how to get resources, it feels like the world is crushing you. Not to mention that you could EXPOSE YOUR CHILDREN TO BULLIES AND/OR PAEDOPHILES. I have an autistic daughter who has stopped eating and drinking. If you dont have a good support network, I hope you are able to find one. She should go to a therapist to work out her antagonistic feelings towards her kid. Some school programs offer various degrees of mainstreaming, in which autistic children spend time in regular classrooms. This can help you learn more about their sensitivities. Stuff posted on public media spaces never goes away, and can come back to haunt someday. WRONG! At least in my state, special education services for those students who functionally cant understand virtual learning have been ignored completely. Everyone has bad days, but this post outlines why to stop complaining about your autistic children and what you can do instead!). Maybe that lady crying in her car about how hard her life is bc of autism had to the same thing everyday for the last week. Whoever wrote this article youre an idiot. Coopers mother should keep her feelings to herself?? Besides its not like you even want, like/love, or care about your child. I dont get all you parents who wish your kids were different than how they are. we also care for a child diagnosed with autism who have achieved some of the remarkable things for a 14 year old. Cute list. A desire not to do something. Well, happy judging autism super mom. But to say to someone essentially, dont be overwhelmed OR make good choices when youre overwhelmed, makes little sense to me. Vrs women who lie and say its perfect never a bad never any anger or grife or fear. If they won't talk about autism, talk about the struggles without mentioning the diagnosis. Forcing their disorders in the same category isnt helpful to anyone. I watched the video thats being quoted in this article, what I saw was a Mother who was vulnerable, clearly struggling, sharing real, raw and valid emotions with the world. Some of the comments on here please relinquish your disabled children to social services or even permanent care I worry so much for their physical safety, their mental health, their autonomy and just growing up with parents that truly cannot get beyond their own pain to even countenance that this kid has feelings as deep and complex as they do. Maybe she didnt handle it the way you would have but its not your kid. I dont think theres a right or a wrong here. As an autistic adult I totally agree with some of the things youre saying. Required fields are marked *. "I Don't Like My Child, Help!" "I've had it with my 12-year-old daughter who has ADHD, sensory disorder, and learning disabilities (LD). Parents need an outlet but it shouldnt be somewhere the child can Google for later in life. There are tons of autistic groups where non-autistic parents are not allowed and the the kids will finally feel accepted. Yes, I am someone who was treated as an inconvenience and a burdenfor 50 years. Now that Im dealing with the same, I am so glad she put his struggles out there, because she shared tools that greatly helped my son. Just as behaviors are. "More than half of children with autism have moderate to severe sleep disturbances," according to the ATN specialists. Divorces due to the stress breaking down every relationship you have. I havent seen this particular video (dont plan to, either), but I see a lot of this stuff on Facebook, etc. I don't feel like have an identity anymore. I saw that video too and my first thought was why is she taking him to this bloody Elmo thing anyway.He so obviously didnt want to be there. Yall need to start treating your severely Autistic children with basic human rights, privacy, and respect. You still gunna tell me to shut my mouth and pretended thats not terrifying? There are thousands like him, being diagnosed every day. I believe u may have missed the bottom part. When pushed to do something they don't want to do, your child may throw a fit. You dont know her life. She grew out of/learned to deal with these things over the past few years although she still wears socks and underwear inside out. Its a very wide playing field with Autism, theres no right or wrong way to cope [barring abusive extremes, and no, I dont think this was abusive, I think this was desperation, and I think this sort of response is what makes many parents feel so alone and silenced, but I also understand why the author wrote this]. Yes, vent, complain etc but not on the internet to strangers. So, all you parents who are reading this one: SPEAK UP ALWAYS!!! Best wishes for you and your children. Absolutely not. Because those of us with disabled children fear so fucking much. I have massive back pain, I have a job, I can drive. She is anything but a bad person. Your kid is like, a kid and youre already grieving? Abusive?!? And EVEN IF WE COMPLAIN that does not mean we are not supporting them 24/7 because WE ARE. And as an authistic, you breed to put more autism in this world? Imagine for a moment that you always wanted a child tobecome a doctor. I feel sad when we are at the playground and I see other kids who are normal. His reading comprehension is not even at a 1st grade level. How dare you make out like what she is saying is abusive. If I do, thats a meltdown. I do my best but there is only so much I can do. Or maybe stop telling other parents what to do The fact that this post calls people [of whatever nature] sl*ts and then shames people who are neurotypical should tell you exactly where this mentality is coming from. They would grow to be self-sufficient, self-reliant, and individualized on their own. You have NO CLUE what severe ASD is The inability to communicate, meltdowns, need for structure can look exactly the same even though a person may be able to fake NT from time to time. if your boyfriend is struggling to deal with your son's behaviour now there is no way he will in a few years, or maybe he just does not want to and is using your son as an excuse to get you to split up, you don't mentions his response to you splitting up. Just because she had a bad day (we all do), and decided to share her story, doesnt give you the right to bash her and make her out to be a bad person. I wish the term autism wasnt so broad. This article was co-authored by Luna Rose. Listening to the same sound or word 24 hours a day because that is all they can say. Support ad love instead of judging and pointing fingers. Thank you for such a thoughtful resource and such great ideas. In the beginning, I wasnt recognizing that certain places we went, my daughter was in distress so she would elope or melt down. Every single last internal concurring issue that isnt my Autism nor ADHD has been overlooked, therefore slowly, but surely, Im moving over to the societal low functioning scale. They are shunned by society right along with Autistic people. That just means that autistic people have no worth in society unless they can mimic neurotypicals. To be so disrespectful of anothers choices on how she helps educate the world on the MANY FACES of autism, and those who love them yours, your childs, my child, Coopers mother, me we all have the right to feel how we feel and share what we feel comfortable sharing as THAT CAN HELP OTHER FAMILIES. My ex was totally out of the picture even when we were married cuz its easier for him that way. Facing my fear: to save my autistic son's future, I had to let him go Elayne Robertson Demby It's always hard for parents when their children leave home. The very fact that you wrote this tells me you have NO clue what severe autism is, or what it looks like. WHY cant it be acceptable to vent about your children?? Its humiliating, and shaming your OWN child for being BORN neurodivergent? He is my best teacher. Will she have to quit her job as I did to care for her brother or will she find an institution or supervised group home where he is happy? But Im going to say something that may be a bit unpopular. Stop whining and grow up. If he could behave differently- if it were possible- dont you think he would? But ALSO for my son, because HE CAN NOT. Good or bad labels! i can 't handle my autistic child anymorepower automate do until apply to each. There are a few incorrect assumptions I want to point out from this comment and also from other posters in this thread. I dont criticize that woman for trying to take her child to see something she thought he might like. Wow, Kaylene, such a great essay! Other Sections Tips and Warnings Related Articles References Co-authored by Luna Rose Last Updated: March 29, 2022 References For example, consider making homemade pizza with your child. People vent about their parents, their spouses, their siblings but no-one judges them harshly for it. But his cousins probably will. Hate. Autistic children often like to touch and taste individual ingredients before deciding whether or not to eat them, and these dishes make it difficult for them to do so. I do not post about this other than to help others in need. It would be the shock of your lifetime, believe me. Most of the comments here mention things that arent even autism-related. Grab lunch with a friend and vent about life. document.getElementById( "ak_js_1" ).setAttribute( "value", ( new Date() ).getTime() ); Your email address will not be published. It can be overwhelming. There isnt any manual to child raising. They might one day, no one knows your autistic childs future. The severe learning disability is the issue. With any of those suggestions, please make sure your child is out of earshotand that youre talking to someone safe. You very likely need MORE support than I do, and thats valid! Amazing that this seems to have been missed. Autism at the very least requires significantly more support than it currently receives. I wonder why is this so easy for other moms? He screams most of the time hes awake. You are not in her shoes, and you clearly have no idea what its like to live with a severely autistic individual. It breaks my heart my son will never take an SOL, SAT, or go to college due to his autismit is a REAL DISABILITY. Im doing my best, but it is hard. And doing it openly and publicly on the Internet is neither. The reason your son acts this was is NOT because of autism, its because he has a worthless sake of shit like you for an egg donor. That being able to string sentences together means the autism is easy (or indeed that its not even autism as stated further back in this thread by someone). The child should feel respected and be able to meaningfully say no. I feel really bad for him, youre disgusting. Some of the best sources of vitamin B6 include sunflower seeds, pistachio nuts, fish, poultry, pork, beef, prunes, raisins, bananas, avocados, and spinach. You can love your child and hate their autism. Experts like Murray, Coury and the specialists at ATN, as well as parents of children who have autism, recommend parents tackle the following six most common challenging autism behaviors. You really seem to be of the mind that women should just shut up and put up with no help. YES! You can have fun kneading and tossing the dough, make faces with the vegetables, and taste throughout the process. Make sure your child knows that you love them, autism and all. Respect and support help autistic people feel confident. Higher functioning individuals struggle to keep jobs in our lovely ultra individualistic society. Waaa waaa whine. That said, a lot of these difficulties arose not directly from the autism but because of the lack of understanding and awareness of it. Recognize the difference between a meltdown and a tantrum. But at the end of the day, they will still have autism. You probably want to deny your parents the right to complain about you, but you project it on us. No need to apologize for anything there .. And sometimes i fucking cry. If your child suspects that you may not follow through, he or she is unlikely to stop the behavior. We deal with tantrums every day, to the degree hes knocked my teeth out of my mouth. Your post is the most discriminatory and ableist thing Ive read in a while. Your autism is NOTHING like my sons. Autistic children need to know that self-harm is not appropriate or allowed, that you will always be there to help them handle it. My oldest has her DL and when school thought she couldnt do it I said shell fail like any other child. Having to make plans for your own death so your child can be kept safe and secure after it. Sleep deprivation, extensive injury, seizure conditions, and explosive behaviors just to name a few. At FIVE years old. Oh and Just go to a Starbucks LOL! As an autistic woman, I am appalled by the comments defending the public posts about autistic children. When your child is severe,it is like nothing you have ever seen. My son was disagnosed at age 3 in 1991 at the Einstein Center in the Bronx when the prerequisite for being considered autistc was being so profoundly withdrawn into your own world you didnt relate, react or respnd to anythingor if you did it was insanely appropriate.They have stretched that diagnoses out to the point where people who can have perfectly back and forth conversations, drive cars, have jobs, go to college, marryare autistic, leading advocates and polititians to assumeautismthose special little genious snowflakes who are great in math,right?thats one reason services are so tough to come by.Were no longer allowed to say.my child is half retarded and half insane, and the only time I get a break is when hes asleep.Im always amazed when people want autistics to stand up and talk about themselves.huh??? I had a blog where I used to write this same kind of thing, all sunshine and farts about raising my autistic brood. I think sharing about how to deal with parenting issues (regardless of whether the child is ND or NT) is invaluable. Its so interesting to me that the only people who complain about functioning labels are either high functioning themselves or have a high functioning child. Youve never seen the severe side, and the helplessness and despair. You may be someones only tie to the autism community. Mediocre gene pool, probably. Older autistic people are able to communicate their experiences with burnout in a way toddlers can't. Adults have reported symptoms such as: Increased sensitivity to sensory stimuli, such as . American Psychological Association, 1999. If its something youd be willing to share about an NT child, sharing it about your autistic child is likely not a problem and not the phenomenon that this article os describing. ALL MOMS COMPLAIN . The same goes for caffeine dont give your child anything that is likely to keep him or her awake. Its the same thing. (Inside:Dear Autism Moms Please stop complaining about your autistic children Its harmful to your children and the entire autistic community. Knowing your child will need 24/7 care the rest of their life, and knowing you will die first, and who then will love them as much and take as good of care as the deserve. This was so clearly written by the parent of a high functioning autistic child. This feels incredibly frustrating, and your child may act out. This is the most ass backwards post Ive ever read. Autism news, information and support. Write about your frustrations in a private journal. If you choose to have children, you are opening yourself up to having a whole range of children and this really should have been made clear before you start. feeling afraid to express emotions. During these stories, appreciate what your child is trying to convey, and ask a question or two if you want to understand better. Its articles like this and people like you thst make it impossible to find anyone or anything genuine about real autism struggles. Children with autism often need constant supervision to ensure they don't get hurt or run away. If something you do makes your child cry or beg you to stop, then stop. There should be separate terms for such extreme ends of the spectrum. When you say that autism ruined your marriage, youre telling people to fear autistic people. I have not complained for 30 years. Parents are often careful about what they share online about their children, but for whatever reason, that line of privacy goes out the window when their child is disabled. You desperately need more support, care, help, etc. And I felt totally justified, too. May I ask.do you parent a child with special needs? That is the reality of it. Therapies such as RDI and RPM can help them engage more. You are proving the authors point. I am an autistic adult (of the drive a car, have a job ilk ;). You can also add beef to the diet, as this supplies carnitine, which helps in the digestion of EFAs. (after not being able to hang with anyone friend for decades because of the level of care you are responsible for at home). Dont you think if he could change anything that he would? It is different. I want more women who deal with heavy heavy work and problems all day to speak up, I want advice and to hear what they have to say especially on their bad days. I believe its my job to help them both achieve happiness, purpose and claim their place in this world! What am I gunna do when hes 35 and 6ft 5 and 240 pounds like his dad when hes this violent now? Beautifully written! They may have never known any autistic people before knowing your child. you say it gets easier, so your the voice of every autistic child, well you got alot to learn then, cause thats is not always the case,, many do not get easier an to say such a thing is completely wrong. References. Thank you Faith. Watching other kids at things like Elmo concerts and knowing you cant usually even make it through a family members birthday party much less some special event like that. Then I went no contact with my mother. Your son smearing fecal matter in your face is communication. Stop shaming the moms of severely autistic kids. Hun. 1.2K views, 26 likes, 31 loves, 56 comments, 42 shares, Facebook Watch Videos from Michael Mirdad: Humility versus Grandiosity -- Friday Night Spiritual. Theres a severe lack of resources for autistic children and their families. My heart aches for him. I dont know. Ok. You obviously have free babysitters at your disposal who are trained in special needs care. And mean. Obviously the woman was overwhelmed. He is. I can't handle my Autistic 4 year old anymore I feel like a horrible mother . Autism is not the issue. I know she feels my ambivalence. I took my child to Disney land and all the other children were running around, while all my child did was slump in his chair and make a whining sound in front of Mickey Mouse! Its offensive, right. I know I did. She tried to take her child to Sesame Street Live and was embarrassed that her 6-year-old autistic child was stimming while meeting Elmo and she saw all the adorable babies in line. Parenting an autistic child gets easier as they get older. Please. then go ahead. This lack of responsiveness is one reason for the difficulties that some autistic people face in securing and keeping employment, and making friends. Try to be consistent as best as you can. Keep it in mind, ableist NT mommies. She tells HER story. I need help as all humans do, not the same kind of help as most humans but there is no shame in that. Especially if your child is severely affected, AND UNABLE TO SELF ADVOCATE, he needs a translator, i.e., his mom, his primary caregiver. So you can post your videos there without humiliating your children and yourselves. Thats why theres no need to put those things on YouTube, where everyone can see them. However there are real limitations to what can be done in a classroom with students. You have no idea what it is like to watch your child suffer everyday from self injurious behaviors, uncontrollable stims, anxiety, depression, fear at every new person and sound. Full stop yall. Kids who missed chucks of schooling for different reasons, kids going through family crisis, kids with other learning difficulties. No sleep for days because of severe ASD insomnia (the ASD individuals insomnia which causes family members and caregivers to also have to no sleep). Let it be. ANY child COSTS his parents a great deal of money [For a middle-income family to raise a child born in 2015 through the age of 17, the cost of rearing a child has hit $233,610, according to the report.] But: A child with autism? But if I find that I need support, I will post on a support thread without hesitation. This article has been viewed 68,833 times. But the difference at the two extreme end points hardly look like the same condition. This may occur in children with autism along with many other symptoms that point to autism . And vent to a spouse who is going through the same thing everyday with you, if you are lucky enough to have one?! He sleeps with a stuffed animal every night (and I could use one too). but presumably because they can't handle him. And yes, lets be honest here, if you child is severely autistic, then yes they are a burden on the parents. Last resort. or comfort someone in pain? Consistency helps autistic children make sense of the world and feel secure. You and the author should live a day in the life of a SEVERE ASD child you wouldnt know what to do. There are lots of gentler ways to tell our stories and deal with our troubles. Learn the difference. K thanks. Some objective points, but the majority was a joke. Please feel free to submit articles to enhance the knowledge emma p (510) 16/09/2014 at 6:36 pm. High and low functioning? Remember that mistakes are normal, and no kid gets perfect caregivers. I will continue to support him in his journey and do what Moms are suppose to do, put my child and HIS FEELINGS first. Get a babysitter and plan a date night with your spouse. For example, hitting one's head could be replaced by rapidly shaking the head. Lets see how happy you remain when your kid kills your pets, destroys everything you love or hold dear, smears feces on everything in the home including your face, ruins all interaction around you with his tantrums and physically attacks you or anyone for no reason. One of the leading causes of death in Autistic people is suicide. The fact is that autistic advocatesfrom many different ability levels agree No one should publically complain about their autistic child. Why? I work 7.30 hrs from home while she is sat on me and sleep on me. Allen, Francis. Solitude. Receptive language difficulties. Develop the tech skills you need for work and life. All you know is what you see in others. Guess you dont have diapers you have to change on your own? I smell sour grapes. I don't want my child to have autism anymore. But definitely not in the childs best interest. That is not whining that is a fact. Vent in a closed, private Facebook group of other parents who understand. It doesnt just affect the parents and the child. The author succeeds at protecting a child from an overreacting mother by giving heads up to that Mom where she errored. Its the stupidest reason. wikiHow is where trusted research and expert knowledge come together. PLEASE start talking to autistic adults. Facebook nowadays is a cesspool of narcissistic boomers, sl*ts, anti-vaxxers, white supremacists, conspiracy weirdos and other human trash, so posting a public video shaming your disabled children there means that youre not different from them. Its real and its raw. You have NO clue. Its just basic respect. No government services. Thanks to all authors for creating a page that has been read 68,833 times. If you did, you wouldnt suggest going to lunch or Starbucks or therapy or on a date. Nobody ordered you to stop complaining, if you have the martyr syndrome just express it in proper places and possiibly in front of proper watchers/readers/listeners. *This blog is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for us to earn fees by linking to Amazon.com and affiliated sites. Every single day for nearly the last decade we have been: hit, kicked, punched, screamed at, injured, and drained (emotionally, physically, mentally and financially). Point istry to take it one day at a time. His momma helps provide that. You had the ability to put pen to paper or fingers to keyboard and write this, but our children will never even write or learn anything but basic life skills. But it is wrong to disparage those of us who are not so fortunate, we have very real concerns about the growing epidemic of autismYES it is an epidemic even the CDC admits it is NOT just better diagnosis. This is far different than a mom who makes a public facebook post showing their neuro-typical kid with a shaved head because they flunked a math test or dyed their hair green at a friends house. I love my kids. And if you did, the whole world wouldnt feel sympathy, theyd tell you to stop being so mean and love your child for who they are. 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